The Importance of Saying ‘No’

Jim Carrey starred in Yes Man (2008), a film where the protagonist unleashes the power of the word ‘yes’ – for one year only – to overcome his negative ways. It appears to do him the world of good, until it doesn’t. Which brings me to the point of this blog post.

It’s OK to say no.

Not all opportunities have to be taken.

Don’t worry about disappointing others if not doing so is to the detriment of yourself. Just look at the feature photo on this post, that’s me. Admittedly, I am not looking my best (if anyone says I look normal I will not be their friend), because I was feeling extremely unwell on my holiday but forced myself to go out because it was our last day in sunny Kassiopi.

However, sometimes, you have to focus on yourself and be selfish enough to put you before anyone else. You have to turn down those plans, say a night out, when you’re already tired and run-down. You have to cancel and run yourself a hot bubble bath before getting an early night. Don’t worry about what the organisers might think, or might say – your health comes first.

There’s been many a time that I’ve been guilt-tripped into going out when I felt severely under the weather. It’s just made everything 10x worse, and thus made it take longer for me to recover. I regret it every single time, and usually don’t even enjoy myself because all that’s on my mind is how long it’s acceptable to stay before I can go home and crawl into bed. Regardless, I continue to say ‘yes’ rather than letting people down.

However, it’s time to change.

Whilst they say that life is too short to sit around all day, life is also too short to do things that you don’t want to do, when you don’t feel like doing them.

Being at home over Christmas with my family has made me realise that just saying ‘no’ every once in a while can make the world of difference. I’m happier in myself, feel fully relaxed, and my cold’s even starting to go sooner than it began. People shouldn’t be afraid of saying no, they should embrace the power of the word and say it more often.

Try it, and let me know how it makes you feel afterwards.

 

Rae Coppola

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